Resonance
LVI — Resonant Love – Self-Love
The first prescription to love is self-love; the ability to love oneself no matter what obstacles and adversities there may be. Resonant love is when the energies of love vibrating in your being are loved plain and simple for what they are. Loving the tiniest atoms of what makes up the being which is you is the first step to loving the whole being which is you. Once this ownership of energy is achieved in your body, heart and mind, it will be driven deep into your consciousness where it can then be used in your outer relationships. Before loving others, it is imperative you love yourself first and love everything about you right down the smallest particles and atoms of your being.
We all have the power inside us to love ourselves, which to many has lain dormant, untouched by the experience of self-love. We are often told that it is vain to love oneself, but how is it possible to love others when the one single entity, which is us, is not loved by us. For some, it is easy to have the ability to love themselves, but for many, it is a skill which may have to be practised until there comes a time when we can love ourselves without the conscious effort.
If you are of the latter, and you need some stimuli, some help to achieve self-love, you can start by listing or thinking, whichever is the easier, what attributes you have in you, which are the best possessions you have. Some to think of are your health, your laughter, your charm, your beauty, your fitness, your ambition, your social skills, your gallery of friends, your ability to work, your ability to love, your desire to learn and many thousands more. Every single one of us has qualities, which we can deem to be our highest expressions of beauty in us.
Taking the effort to find the love in you, it may be necessary to contemplate or meditate upon your best qualities, as this will manifest with greater clarity and charge in your heart. Meditation allows you to focus with a clarity of mind, without negative incursions from your past. It allows you to go into yourself and change aspects of yourself and alter the perceptions of who you are. Once you have seen and beheld the real love which is you, and you have gone beyond the physical aspect of you, you are able to penetrate your soul, and in so doing, you will achieve the knowledge that the universe is all one, and we are part of one universe. The mind is an extremely powerful tool which enables you to do this. It will give you the gift of being able to change the levels of your karma, which have held you in the past, compelled you to keep making the same mistakes, and the key to self-love is to change this negative vibration and to move forward on your journey in a much more powerful and positive way.
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About Karl Swainston
Karl Swainston is a writer and storyteller whose work is forged from a life lived across the North of England and far beyond. Growing up on a Leeds council estate in the 1960s, Karl's journey was anything but linear. By the age of thirty, he had already lived a dozen lives: from the rigors of grammar school to a degree in Latin, a stint as a fishmonger, a period of discovery living in Marseille, and a return to the hustle of London. Whether working as a postman, a builder, or competing as a county-level chess player, he was, above all, an avid reader—constantly documenting the world around him. This restless spirit continued into his professional life. Karl later taught in Bradford, where he ran a specialist unit for 244 of the most excluded students from across the region—young people whom even the local Pupil Referral Units could not accommodate. Working alongside his old friend Malcolm, Karl spent his days navigating the volatility of Bradford's most aggressive and dysfunctional teenagers. Throughout his life, Karl has been an avid runner and has always shared his home with a rotating cast of beloved dogs and cats—companions who have been constant witnesses to his work. As a writer, Karl's range is as expansive as his history. He works across a wide breadth of genres, including fiction and short stories, autobiography and memoir, biography, non-fiction, and metaphysical writing, as well as providing sharp commentary, opinion, analysis, and essays. Whether writing about his years managing the Harrogate Arms or offering insights from his current adopted home in South East India, where he lives in a simple village with his dog, Bambi, Karl's voice reflects the full, untidy, and deeply human breadth of life. He continues to draw on the rich, decades-long tapestry of his experiences to tell stories that matter, proving that no matter where you live, the human story remains the same.
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